Q: My name is Cheska and I'm 18 years old. My question is about masturbation and having orgasms. I have been masturbating since I was really young but counclors say thats because of me being sexually abused, anyways even though I have been masturbating since I was little I have never had an orgasm and don't know why I can't achieve one. I don't know if I'm doing something wrong or if I'm not doing enough. Or maybe the fact that I have done it for so long I just will never have one. I've even looked it up online and tried stuff but it didn't work at all. Could vibrators or dildos actually be better to us then just my hand? Don't get me wrong yes it feels good and it's like im addicted to it but I just want to be able to have orgasms like everyone else. Any advise you have would be very much appreciated.

A: Hi Cheska, masturbation is something that is not acquired instantly. You have to learn it. No matter how long you have been pleasuring yourself, if you are doing it wrong then you will not really experience orgasm. I suggest you have to know yourself. Watch a porn movie so you will know what to do. Your fingers can do a lot in pleasuring your erogenous zone. But like what I have said, you should know how to work your pussy. Otherwise, nothing will happen. When it comes to buying sex toys, of course, toys are better than your fingers. The fact that it has vibrating functions and various features, sex toys is design to do these things. So if you are planning to buy one, I suggest you need a jack rabbit vibrator. This toy is perfect for a beginner like you. Plus, it has a double stimulator features that pleasures both your clit and the G-Spot. So good luck girl.