Q: Me and my girlfriend have been together for six years. When we first got together she had never even had a orgasm, but now, not only does she get the big "O", she squirts! Sounds like everything is going great right?? Wrong! We barely get to have sex because for some reason she doesn"t have the drive. I always initiate and she never has less than three orgasms when we do have sex. I think I'm fairly good looking, and I'm just under ten inches and thick. So my question to you is, How in the world do I get her to initiate sex, and want it more often? I tried adult toys and costumes, massages all kind of stuff. I do the laundry clean the house, so all she ever has to do is cook sometimes, because I do that most of the time too. I'm trying all I can to keep from walking out on her, or worse, cheating. I hope you can help. P.S. We went from a couple times a day to maybe three times a month if I'm lucky. Send the sex police, or the sex guards or somebody, just please send help soon!
 
A: Hi Anthony... Six years of being in a same relationship is like six years of eating the same food over and over again. I am not saying that either of you should be promiscuous or start being unfaithful to each other. But I guess your sexual relationship is pretty much monotonous that is why your partner is having a low sex drive. You might be introducing sex toys or intimate massages but you’re not giving her the right one and that’s the reason why you’re still having the same problem. Try asking her what she wants or if you are rubbing her the right way. Communication is the key. Bottom line is, sometimes doing the same thing in a repetitive manner induces boredom. What you need to do is to find out how to spiced it up or create something new to make it exciting and fun. I am sure, there is something lacking in your performance and the only way to find that out is to ask your partner. There is nothing wrong with that. Just do it in a nice and sexy way. I am sure, both of you will be hitting the high notes (I meant orgasm) after your issues have been settled.